8 90s RnB dating tips
A concert featuring 90s RnB singers evokes nostalgia for simpler dating times. The post offers eight tips to rekindle 90s romance: make phone calls, create mixtapes, be present, plan genuine dates, send handwritten notes, let…
11 types of Toxic Masculinity when dating
What is Toxic Masculinity? Types of toxic masculinity in dating is the foundation of domestic abuse such as coercive control, misogyny and mental abuse. However some types of toxic masculinity are more subtle and need…
12 types of toxic femininity when dating
Toxic femininity when dating is growing. I’ve recently left a number of facebook groups based on behaviours by women that were being endorsed by other women. Tricking men into fathering children, getting away with cheating…
How The Black Woman Effect enables male mediocrity
The Black Woman Effect has come to social media and it’s horrible. As far as new trends go this one is giving ridiculous amounts of obtuseness. Like Black Girl Magic it’s over reaching. Suddenly, we’ve…
6 Signs you are Dating Ready
Apart from the obvious (that you should be single), there are a lot of people who on dating apps or events dating too soon. They start the dating process before they are dating ready so…
Voting and Dating Single
Today is not only American ‘Independence’ day but also the UK Elections. It’s also a good time to work out how best to vote and what other people’s votes may say about them. Voting and…
I am not your mistress
If you are married and we meet, don’t try and mistress me. It’s the worst decision you will ever make. I have waaay too much time on my hands. I am not your mistress. Story…
Where to find Black Women in London
After the blog on finding Black Men in London it was time to do one on finding Black Women in London. As a Black Woman I think we are everywhere, but, apparently finding us is…
Why Diddy’s Penis Power stays ‘winning’
Diddy’s Penis Power and Cassie We’ve spent the last few days being told the horrors Sean ‘P Didddy’ Combs subjected Cassie Ventura to over a 10 year relationship. There is drug abuse, sex trafficking, physical…
The Truth about Trauma Bombing
The truth about trauma bombing and why I’m writing about it. So the other night I went out. I happened to sit with a group where one guy decided to talk AT us. He told…