It’s time to go back. Waaay back! Another day and another concert announced where 90s RnB singers are coming here to remind us of that pure, pure 90s dating. Ah, the 90s—back when dating didn’t involve swiping left or ghosting. It was about being conscious, in touch with your feelings and expressive. Can I get a K-Ci holla? If you’re longing for the days when love was a bit more analog, then fear not. Here’s 8 90s RnB dating tips:
1. Pick Up the Phone and Call
Forget texting or sliding into DMs—if you want to date like it’s the 90s, you’ve got to pick up the phone and actually call. There’s something about hearing someone’s voice that makes a connection feel real. Plus, you can’t hide behind emojis, so you’ll have to bring your A-game with real conversation. A lot of Black men have sexy voices (hence why they’re always leaving voice notes) so why use up your phone memory when you could be laughing at his bad dad jokes in real time? Give up the dating apps!
2. Make a Mixtape (or Playlist)
Nothing says 90s romance like a mixtape. Curate a playlist that tells a story, from the first track that reminds you of them to the last song that hints at where you want things to go. It’s a thoughtful gesture that shows you’re paying attention to what makes them tick. It also tells them a lot about you. Quick tip: Maybe steer clear of problematic oldies. One mixtape I got back in the day had ‘You remind me of a jeep’ on the A side and ‘Crazy Love’ by Brian McKnight. That didn’t age well at all! Just swap the cassette for a Spotify playlist if you must, but the sentiment’s the same.
3. Date with Intentions, Not Distractions
In the 90s, you didn’t have five dating apps competing for your attention. You focused on the person in front of you, not the next potential match. So, when you’re on a date, put the phone away, and be present. Eye contact, real conversation, and genuine connection—these are the things that make sparks fly, not how many likes you’re getting on your last post. Maybe you need to both put your phones in the middle of the table and whoever picks up first has to pay the bill? 😂.
4. Plan Real Dates
Netflix and chill didn’t exist in the 90s, so step up your date game. Whether it’s dinner at a cozy restaurant, a trip to the cinema, or even just a walk in the park, make an effort. In the 90s, dating was about creating memories together, not just ticking boxes on your to-do list. There are a number of Back in the Days events out there in London so maybe plan a night out with some old skool music and dancing. Watch those knees though!
Here’s a brunch idea if that’s more your speed
5. Send a Handwritten Note
Nothing beats the charm of a handwritten note. Email hits differently and the chances are you spend way too much time whatsapping them anyway? Whether it’s a quick “thinking of you” on a Post-it or a heartfelt letter, putting pen to paper shows effort and sincerity. In a world of instant messages, a handwritten note feels personal and timeless—just like the love stories we all swooned over in the 90s.
6. Let Things Unfold Naturally
Before we had the pressure of instant replies and constant connectivity, dating unfolded at its own pace. Embrace that 90s slow burn—take your time getting to know each other without rushing to define things. You can be intentional but also enjoy the mystery, the anticipation, and the excitement of discovering someone new without checking their Insta stories every five minutes.
7. Dance Like Nobody’s Watching
Remember when dancing wasn’t about getting the perfect TikTok shot? Go out, hit the dance floor, and have fun. Whether it’s a throwback 90s night or just a spontaneous dance in your living room, let loose and enjoy the moment. Dancing was (and still is) a great way to connect and let your guard down.
8. Leave the Drama Behind
The 90s were about simplicity—no social media drama, no overthinking every interaction. If you want to date like it’s the 90s, keep it drama-free. Be upfront, be real, and don’t play games. Let your relationship evolve naturally, without the pressure of constant online scrutiny.
So, if you’re craving a dose of 90s nostalgia in your love life, these 8 90s RnB dating tips will have you dating like it’s 1995, with a fresh twist that fits right into the here and now. Love in the 90s was all about connection, effort, and being present—so let’s bring a little of that magic back.
8 Date like it’s the 90s RnB style tips
Happy Dating!
© Chelsea Black ® 2024
