Don’t get me wrong my precious I love being single but sometimes I question the reasons I have for getting into one. So here are my reasons for NOT getting into a relationship ….despite pressure from your mother.

1)      Because you feel sorry for him

The pitiful man who tells you his whole sad life story is to be avoided. If he tells you he was a loser in his last relationship don’t think he is going to be any different with you. Like the guy I knew who couldn’t maintain a relationship. It soon became apparent why. I thought he was just another funny writer who was having a hard few months.  Yes, he had kicked the drug habit but was still living with roommates, had a job in a petrol station and every other story was about him getting wasted on alcohol instead. I heard about his absentee Father and his aspirations for the future but months later ….why wasn’t he doing all the things he said he was going to do? I had to get out! He also thought eating out was too extravagant. He cancelled our date after I suggested a restaurant.

No, tell him you are gifting him space to get himself together before you get involved. Then run for the hills because the chances are he enjoys being a victim more than you enjoy being a healer.  And there are only so many outings you can sponsor on a fabulous girl’s budget 😉