When he doesn’t like you that much: There’s a special kind of delusion we enter when we like someone more than they like us. It’s soft, warm, slightly unhinged — like a love-induced fever dream. You know, the one where you’re starring in your own romantic drama, and he’s… well, he’s just not answering the phone.
Let me break it to you gently, darling: If you’re constantly asking your girls, “Do you think he likes me?” — he probably doesn’t. Not that much.
Now don’t get me wrong, he may like your vibe. He may like your body. He may even like your cooking or the way your bum jiggles when you laugh. But like you you? The way you want to be liked? Nah. That ain’t it.
So let’s unravel the fairy tales, shall we?
Fairy Tale #1: He’s just bad at texting.
Oh really? But he’s great at watching your stories within 3 seconds of posting? Mmmkay.
Newsflash: Men who want to talk to you, talk to you. Whether it’s a meme, a “thinking of you” message, or a “wyd” at 1am — effort looks like something. And if it’s taking him 72 hours to reply to a message that just said “lol”, you are not on his priority list, sis. You’re a notification he ignores on purpose.
Let’s stop romanticising digital laziness. If he wanted to… say it with me: he would.
Fairy Tale #2: He’s just busy.
A man will book a 6-hour round trip to link a girl he met on a Tuesday if he likes her enough. Don’t let “I’ve just been swamped with work” become your lullaby. Beyoncé has 3 kids, a husband, a tour, and several billion-dollar ventures, and she still found time to give us Lemonade.
He’s not busy. He’s just not busy with you. And the sooner you accept that, the sooner you stop planning outfits for dates that will never happen.
Fairy Tale #3: He’s just not ready for a relationship.
This is a classic. A crowd fave. But let’s be real: Men are never ready for a relationship until they are. And when they are? Oh, you’ll know. Because they make it loud, clear, and consistent.
If he’s not ready with you but finds his whole soulmate three weeks later? Babes, it wasn’t about timing. It was about you not being the one he wanted to be ready for.
Let that sink in. Then sip your mimosa.
Fairy Tale #4: He shows he cares in his own way.
Unless his way includes communicating, being emotionally available, making time for you, and not making you feel like you’re auditioning for affection — he doesn’t care. He’s just doing the bare minimum, with extra seasoning.
Sending “you home safe?” after ghosting you all week doesn’t mean he cares. That’s not a love language. That’s guilt management.
Fairy Tale #5: But the sex is amazing.
I mean, so is pizza. Doesn’t mean it’s marriage material.
Let’s stop confusing sexual chemistry with emotional compatibility. Lust is not love. Or even like, for that matter. If he’s only affectionate when he’s trying to get inside you, you’re not his girl — you’re his warm-up routine.
So what now, Chelsea?
I’m not saying he hates you. I’m saying he doesn’t prioritise you. There’s a difference. He might think you’re beautiful, funny, sexy, even smart — but none of that matters if he’s not intentional.
The truth is: You deserve someone who makes you feel sure. Not someone who leaves you decoding emojis, rereading messages, and pretending you’re chill with “seeing where it goes.”
You’re not a maybe. You’re a yes or no. So if he’s giving “maybe,” girl… choose no for him.
Still tempted to text him just to see if he replies this time?
Yeah… don’t. Read this instead:
“You Know It’s a One Night Stand When…”
Because if you’re clinging to hope, but all you’ve got is awkward silence and inconsistent energy, you’re not dating — you’re dodging rejection in slow motion.
When he doesn’t like you that much, we don’t chase, beg, or pine in 2025. We block, delete, and flourish.
You got this, babe. 💅🏾✨
