9. Time will go faster as we focus
The speed of relationships will dramatically shift as we learn to access their covidity and long term potential. Can you put up with this person long term with just an hour of exercise a day as reprieve? Can you both take care of each other in the ways you require be it emotionally, physically, financially, sexually, spiritually, without killing each other?
One of the first things is that financially, can you even afford to visit this person if they love overseas. You can probably afford to be furloughed from work for 3-6 months as one person but as two? Can you manage having to look after both of you? Do you even want to? If the answer is no, then the chances are you won’t be hanging around longer waiting on him to grow out of his finding himself phase. He’s 46. It’s not likely to change any time soon. Bless.
Focus is a wonderful tool as it will allow you to cut through the superficial bullshit and enjoy dating those who are just as focused as you are instead of those who still haven’t figured out i they want a relationship or not.
This is when you will be so sure about what you want from a relationship nobody will be able to question you as being too fussy. (yes Mother, I do mean you.)
So don’t be surprised if you hear about a whole heap of weddings next year as people stop faffing about and just crack on with being happy in love.
10. You’ll know yourself better
It sounds trite but dating is easier when your sense of self is better defined. You’ll be able to say with perfect clarity what you value, what you like and dislike from food and tv shows to cleaning and work. You will have changed as a person and your dating will have changed too.
My pet peeves are women who are only about being the perfect partner for their man. I’d rather hear about your job or your passions and adventures. I don’t only want to hear about your dating disasters. Yes, I get the irony o a Relationship Blogger writing that but, that’s not cute EVERY time you hang out. So get into something. Have interests and passions. Take those new found skills and live the fuck out of them instead of wondering when Mr/Miss Right is going to walk through the door. We’re in lockdown Sweetis! Nobody is getting out or in that door for a while yet.
Enjoy yourself. Dating will be a lot more fun!
Happy Dating Post Covid Y’All!
© Chelsea Black 2020 (Lockdown Period)