How to be a mini Dominatrix

A – Sexy D  is for Dominatrix

So here is my quick guide to being a mini dominatrix

1)      Shopping – know that you will need a budget. Who knew that leather and pvc, whips etc were so expensive! If it really is a one off stick to Ann Summers. It’s cheap enough that you won’t want to wear that again or you can maybe get away with going clubbing in it. Or if you are feeling brave you can buy some body tape and just invest in leather pants that you will wear again. Be careful of peircings mind you and body hair when you are taking it off.

2)      Avoid cat suits or any all in one. One they don’t look good on anyone with a shape that isn’t androgynous and two they can be a bugger to get off if you suddenly want some action. I know most dominatrices don’t have sex with their slaves but this is role play remember, the urge may hit you min D.

3)      Remember that curves and pvc aren’t really a match. Worse a lot of the materials are easily tearable in the shops so be careful if trying on. Most offer talc for ease of getting on and off but others aren’t that considerate. Oh and the articles are usually non-returnable. They know what you’ve been up to. Don’t even try it.

4)      No kissing. Especially if you make him lick your boots or the toilet seat. This is a step too far for me but I’m sure there are some out there a lot braver than me.

5)      Practise spanking on a pillow. Go for the meatiest not skinniest part of him and start gently. You have to work up to pain. Please remember that men have a much lower pain threshold than us girls. Most are big babies and won’t last 10 lashes let alone a whole set

6)      This role play is all about the anticipation so best you have some stuff for him to do whilst you don’t do much. Common is cleaning yes, but also he can paint your nails, give you a proper massage and maybe even tasks of a most sexual nature

7)      Think of punishments for when he is naughty. My favourite is that he has to go down for 10 minutes for ever misdemeanour. Have a safety word. He’s going to need it

8)      He isn’t allowed to get off or touch himself.  A slap or spank for every time he tries to get off please.

9)      Don’t let him come first but you can milk him afterwards. This is about him pleasing you first remember  then you making him feel better.

10)   Make sure that he’s not a screamer and that you don’t have thin walls. No one needs the neighbours calling the po po cos they think he’s beating you up. Try explaining that get up to the police.

11)   Get him involved in the dress up. I prefer them naked cos I’m greedy with the dressup budget but a belt might work. Actually scratch this one. Men never look good in anything sex dressy unless he is a model or a sportsman.

12)   Think ahead. Know what you want him to do and how you want him to do it. Mess with him a little even if he’s doing it right but never lose control and remember to come out of role play. You wouldn’t want to be stuck in that Dom role….unless there is more cleaning to do.

Ok go forth my mini D and enjoy yourself. Remember, don’t paddle or whip in anger. He might just suggest you become his slave for the day and will remember every cruel mark. Oh and when sitting on his face please make sure that he’s still breathing.

Happy paddling!

© Chelsea Black