Dating December and Breadcrumbing: The commitment phobes’ favourite torture tool . This is part of the Dating December Series. The time when you are most likely to meet someone and start dating.
Another day, another dating trend sent to torment us all. Welcome to the world of breadcrumbing. It’s not as delicious as it sounds, and no, it doesn’t involve actual carbs—sadly. This is modern romance’s answer to Hansel and Gretel: someone leaves you a tantalizing trail of crumbs, only for you to find out they have no intention of giving you the whole loaf.
What is breadcrumbing?
Breadcrumbing is when someone doles out just enough attention to keep you hanging on without ever committing. A cheeky DM here, a flirty text there—just enough to keep you on their radar but never enough to make plans that involve… you know… actually seeing you in person.
Picture this: You’re chatting with someone, and just as you’re ready to write them off as a lost cause, they drop a “Hey, you” at 10:43 PM. Your heart skips a beat. Maybe they’re interested! Spoiler alert: they’re not. They’re just bored, or worse, they’re hoarding your attention to fuel their ego. They also don’t want you to be with anyone else. Classic narcissist.
Why do people breadcrumb?
Ah, the eternal question. Maybe they’re lonely, maybe they’re emotionally unavailable, or maybe they’re just bad at communicating. Honestly, breadcrumbing is less about you and more about them—their insecurities, their need for validation, and their inability to let someone go gracefully.
But let’s be honest, they probably think they’re being subtle, like we don’t all see through the charade. Or they’re highly manipulative commitment phobes
How to deal with a breadcrumber
- Recognize the crumbs: If someone is messaging you just enough to keep you interested but never follows through, that’s a red flag.
- Raise your standards: You’re a whole bakery, darling. You deserve someone who wants to feast, not snack.
- Call them out: Sometimes a cheeky, “So, what’s the plan here?” can work wonders. And if it doesn’t? That’s your answer.
- Block, delete, repeat: Life’s too short for crumbs. You deserve the loaf—or better yet, the whole cake.
So next time someone starts breadcrumbing you, remember: you’re not here to be someone’s backup plan. Swipe left, move on, and find someone who’s ready to sit down and share the feast. Or at least buy you dinner.
Dating December and Breadcrumbing is not the look this year. Now, go forth and reclaim your time, loves. Remember, carbs are better on your plate than in your DMs.
© Chelsea Black ® 2024 – wishing you all the dating December! 💋
