I get that many grew up believing that anything light or white was more attractive and therefore the extent of institutional conditioning is profound. But, after a certain age you have a certain responsibility to decolonise our thinking. It doesn’t mean that your pecker won’t perk up at the sight of anything with tits but it means you’ll understand why it gets harder for some than others. Your pussy can get wet for someone other than a Helmsworth! I mean, don’t you want to be the best you can be? Or are you only happy when you measure your success on standards that are imposed on and deemed general?
It’s time we decolonise our thinking and this is a big call to action. Question your preferences. They may not change but question them and unpick where your prejudices come from. Think about what you’re consuming from media and porn to social settings and opportunity. So check your unconscious bias. It’s the adult thing to do.
So dating consciously is about understanding where your preferences come from and owning them. Change them if they make you uncomfortable and don’t align with your politics but again, own this. Don’t make it someone else’s problem. If you can’t date with pride then what’s the point. Neither of you are winning.
In other news, we are going into winter with a second wave coming. I don’t know how some of you are still out there on these dating streets! Be safe our there and be responsible with your genitalia.
© Chelsea Black® 2020 (Covid Era)