Christmas Gifts When You’re Just Dating
So, you’ve met someone fabulous. The banter is flowing, and you’re already planning future dates in your head. But wait, Christmas is just around the corner. What do you buy for someone you’ve only just started dating? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered with thoughtful, budget-friendly Christmas gifts when you’er just dating. Gift ideas that won’t scream “I’m planning our wedding,” but will still make an impression. Even if you are secretly planning your wedding.
Budget-Friendly Sweet Gestures
When it’s early days, keep the budget reasonable. You want to show you’re thoughtful without going overboard. I tend to go for convenience and spend more but that can make some people feel uncomfortable. Holiday gifts can feel tricky, but these ideas hit just the right festive note.
For Him:
- Personalized Keychain or Bracelet (Under £20): A small, stylish accessory with his initials is a classy touch. Think leather or metal—keep it understated.
- Beard Care Kit (Around £15): If he’s rocking a beard, a grooming set with oils and balms will go down a treat. Bonus points for choosing Black-owned brands!
- Customized Playlist (Free): Create a playlist of songs he’ll love based on your conversations. Pair it with a handwritten note explaining your choices, and maybe add a few holiday tunes to get into the spirit.
- Vouchers (free): You can make a bunch of playful vouchers for dates or experiences or sexcapades. Depends on how adventurous you feel.
For Her:
- Satin Pillowcase or Bonnet Set (£15-£20): Protect her crown and earn bonus points for knowing about hair care essentials. Choose a festive color for an extra holiday touch.
- Scented Candles and Butters (Around £10): Opt for warm, inviting fragrances like cinnamon, vanilla, or sandalwood. Again, Black-owned brands are a win. There are some that do plantain scented candles.
- Cute Journal (£10-£15): Encourage her creative side with a beautiful journal. Add a holiday-themed pen or write a note inside to make it more personal.
Gifts that are Experiences
If you’re more about creating memories than giving material gifts, experiences are the way to go. Christmas offers plenty of opportunities for cozy, festive fun.
For Him:
- Barbershop Treat (Around £25): Book his next haircut at a high-end barbershop. He’ll appreciate the pampering, and you’ll enjoy seeing the results.
- Retro Game Night (Under £20): Buy or borrow a classic board or card game (think Uno or Monopoly). Pair it with festive snacks like mince pies and hot chocolate for a relaxed, fun night in.
- Afro-Caribbean Christmas Feast (DIY Style): Take him on a foodie adventure to your favorite spots or whip up a meal at home. Incorporate seasonal favorites like sorrel, black cake, or pepper soup. You’ll get bonus points for baking!
For Her:
- Holiday-Themed Picnic at Home (£20 or Less): Lay out a blanket by the Christmas tree with festive snacks like gingerbread cookies and mulled wine. Add fairy lights for extra charm.
- DIY Spa Night (Under £20): Put together a self-care kit with face masks, body scrubs, and a holiday-scented candle. Offer to do a foot massage if you’re feeling bold.
- Christmas Market Visit (Free or Cheap): Check out local holiday markets showcasing Black-owned businesses or artisans. You’ll bond over the festive atmosphere and maybe find a unique treasure together.
Things to Avoid
- Overly Expensive Gifts: Too much, too soon can feel overwhelming.
- Generic Items: Skip the cliché flowers and chocolates unless they come with a personal twist.
- Clothing: Unless you’re certain of their size and style, steer clear to avoid an awkward situation.
Final Thoughts
So yeah Christamas gifts when you’ve just started dating shouldn’t be so hard. When it comes to early-dating Christmas gifts, it’s the thought that counts. Whether you go for a small token or a shared experience, make it personal and reflective of who they are. For Black men and women, choosing culturally relevant gifts or experiences adds an extra layer of thoughtfulness.
Remember, you’re setting the tone for how you’ll show up in this relationship. Start as you mean to go on: thoughtful, intentional, and just the right amount of extra.
© Chelsea Black ® 2024
