A – sexy D is for Dominatrix part 1
There is a female sexual role that is revered by some and not clearly understood by others and that is the role of the dominatrix. It isn’t all about politicians being made to lick the toilet bowl and being whipped into an inch of their lives. Ok some of it is but not for your average girl who just wants to do something different.
No for us being a dominatrix is much much more. If only for the outfit choices alone every woman should try it once in a while. Why? Because you have to think about what you want and how you want it and you have to be able to communicate this to a man. Aren’t they always complaining that women don’t tell them what they want? Well you can’t ignore a woman dressed in leather or PVC and carrying a paddle.
Now I must be clear that some men are lazy. They don’t want to be dominated they just don’t want to do all of the work. These men aren’t worth of the effort it will take you to be a mini D for the day. If you come across a man who is sexually lazy please grab your purse and run. He will be a drain on your life. Who wants to be with a man you constantly have to boss in AND out of the bedroom? I can think of better things to do with my time personally like catching up on some much sleep.
The role of the dominatrix is about trust. He trusts that you aren’t going to do anything to 
truly hurt him. You may inflict some physical pain but never emotional. This is a critical point. Consensual sexual humiliation is fine (men do it all the time, some without the consensual bit) but you cannot reduce him to feeling so pathetic that it seeps into other areas of your relationship or dating. You must remember what I often forget; that the male ego is more fragile than a flower.
So you want to be a dominatrix but don’t know where to start? By this I mean for a session as chances are few of us will make a career of it. Why? Because if we were really honest we are fundamentally lazy that’s why. Let’s face facts, there is something good about lying back and making him do most of the work. But this secret we keep between ourselves. Don’t go telling the men that. But come with me to part 2 and let’s see if we can at least get you to fake being a dominatrix for one night. Or day. If you are going to make him clean then best you do it when the natural light picks up the dust just right.
Who needs a cleaner? Read part 2
© Chelsea Black
