Dating December and Breadcrumbing 

Dating is Dead

Dating December and Breadcrumbing: The commitment phobes’ favourite torture tool . This is part of the Dating December Series. The time when you are most likely to meet someone and start dating.   Another day, another dating trend sent to torment us all. Welcome to the world of breadcrumbing. It’s not as delicious as it sounds, […]

7 Signs You Are Sex-Depressed

sex depressed

7 Signs You Are Sex-Depressed Ah, sex. The three-letter word that makes the world go round… or at least keeps it spinning on something. But what happens when you’re stuck in neutral? It’s normal to take a break after a breakup but, how long is too long. Why are you struggling to get in the […]

Why African Polygamy Doesn’t Work in the UK

Why African Polygamy Doesn’t Work in the UK: A Culture Clash Too Big to Handle Yesterday I was at the Black Business Show representing Coffee Matches and a dude came up talking about he wanted 3 wives all living in their own homes who would have him for 2 days a week. Apart from being […]

Women making the first move

boomerang - making the first move

How to make the first move – a wily woman’s guide  You’ve heard it all before: “Let the man take the lead,” “Don’t come on too strong,” or my personal favorite, “Men don’t like masculine women” Really? In 2024? It’s high time we retire these outdated notions. Podcast bros and their insecurity shouldn’t put you […]

Why Black Women Protect Hip Hop

P Diddy Protected

Why Black Women protect Hip Hop : This is a longer exploration of the Will Hip Hop Be Affected by #MeToo? Hey Black Women, quick question. Why are we still protecting Hip Hop? We’ve seen the #MeToo movement tear through industries—Hollywood, media, even politics. So, why has hip hop, a genre often drenched in tales of […]

Will Hip Hop Be Affected by #MeToo?

Hip Hop and #MeToo

Will Hip Hop Be Affected by #MeToo? I’ve never been so happy that a #TBT on Diddy didn’t age well. (Link has more live news for those that are following his demise in real tie. More on him later but I erroneously said he was likely to get away with it? Looks like he’s finally, […]

Rebecca Cheptegei: How Women Can Stay Safe from Domestic Abuse

Rebecca Cheptegei: How Women Can Stay Safe from Domestic Abuse It’s taken a couple of days to write this one as it’s so upsetting. In yet another heartbreaking incident, Uganda and Africa has lost a beloved daughter, Rebecca Cheptegei, to the all-too-familiar scourge of domestic abuse. Rebecca Cheptegei, tragically met her end at the hands […]

Stuck in the Talking Stage

Dating Apps

Stuck in the Talking Stage: How to Break into Real Dating You know the drill. You’re swiping through Tinder, Bumble, Hinge—whatever your vice of choice is—and you finally match with someone who seems promising. You exchange a few witty messages, maybe even get into the deep stuff (favorite pizza toppings, worst date stories, and “Would […]

11 types of Toxic Masculinity when dating

What is Toxic Masculinity? Types of toxic masculinity in dating is the foundation of  domestic abuse such as coercive control, misogyny and mental abuse. However some types of toxic masculinity are more subtle and need to be addressed to ensure that both parties are feeling loved and flourishing in the relationship.  Toxic masculinity refers to […]

12 types of toxic femininity when dating

12 types of Toxic Femininity when dating

Toxic femininity when dating is growing. I’ve recently left a number of facebook groups based on behaviours by women that were being endorsed by other women. Tricking men into fathering children, getting away with cheating etc. And it got me thinking that toxic femininity has become rife in these internet streets. Toxic femininity, like toxic […]