June 6, 2012 by

The singles mixer

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The singles mixer part 1

So the other day I helped organise a singles mixer. I know I’m unemployed and should be spending all of that time looking for a boring job that will make me bump into people on the commute because I’m angry at the world. Instead I delude myself into thinking that getting people together is much more important. Yes I have some issues. I’m being counselled by MBNA on it.

So there I was organising this mixer when I remembered an episode of SATC in which they took the guys they no longer wanted to date to a mixer. It was inspired. It meant that the numbers were even and let’s face it, one woman’s Primani is another woman’s Selfridges. It’s on the same street!

So this is mind, I posted it online and waited. Nothing . All the women I spoke to told me that it was a great idea but, they didn’t know any men . What did that mean? Then the usual excuses started.

“I don’t know any single men!” – this from those that date at least 5 times a month.

“All my male friends are married!” –Both of them right?

“I’m not comfortable bringing any ex to something like this.” – what about colleagues or cousins?

I see. So you want to meet new guys but you have nothing to bring to the party? I don’t understand this. You want to eat at the buffet but not bring even a salad or a dessert or store bought biscuits? But more on them later.

So I was stuck. I had a group of women and the legacy of singles events where women outnumber the men 3 to 1. I wasn’t going to go down like this. So I did what any woman on a mission would do….I dipped into my own archives.

I started with a text to every man in the phone. I didn’t care if they were exes, friends or people I wasn’t even sure how I knew they got a text. Then I went on Facebook and reconnected with men I barely say hi to but I knew they were single. A girlfriend would have made them change their status.  Some ignored it and others seemed insulted. Whatever, those were single but still in denial. Besides we are in a dating recession. No time to be precious. 2 of the exes said yes then messed me around on the day. Probably for the best as one tried to barter sex as a trade-off for his presence at the mixer. I had to explain to him how mixers worked. Besides, there was no way I was going anywhere near that explosive pistol again. The control was faulty.

But you know what…I now know who my true male friends are. 4 in particular came out and dragged their friends with them. I ended up with 11 guys and my friend Linda brought 1 too. Then there is the worry that they wouldn’t behave appropriately because you know men and curves in the same room. But they all did. I was so proud of them.

So this is a thank you kindly my male friends for supporting me. I will go on to talk about the women in the next blog. But let’s just say I know now why some are single.

Yeah I said it. And what?

© Chelsea Black

Chelsea Black is a writer. Romantically seeking her Fubo (future boyfriend) she often gets distracted by misadventures. She is currently working on her second book, first baby (sperm to be confirmed) and first real career. Chocolate and cocktails are food groups

2 Responses to The singles mixer

  1. Jayro

    All I can say is you know why!! It was a great event good conversation and nice people.
    Its good to make guy friends because friends have friends 😉

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